For people around the world, Christmas is a season of anticipation, joy, gifts and celebration. For others, it represents a season of loss, loneliness, isolation and sadness. For many others, it’s both. How do you see it? “Do you see what I see?” is a question asked in a popular Christmas carol. It refers to...
This Christmas, help yourself forgive with the ‘REACH’ method
Dear Mark and Cathy, My boyfriend of five years passed away suddenly six months ago. In the wake of his passing, I discovered many secrets—things that he did not tell me about. It appears that all that time we were together he was leading a double life. Whenever I think of his betrayal, I am...
Dealing with grief over the holidays
Dear Cathy & Mark, Our beloved 72-year-old father died last June of Covid-19. He was generally healthy otherwise. My four siblings and I are devastated by our loss. Our father loved Christmas and always made it a special time for our family. Two of my siblings suggested that we carry on our family traditions as...
Ensuring a happy end of life for a loved one
Dear Cathy and Mark, My 82-year-old father was recently diagnosed with end-stage heart failure. His doctor informed us that he would likely not survive another year. My mother is 78 and has a number of medical ailments, but overall is in good health. My parents have adequate health insurance to cover my father’s medical care....
How to make a long-distance relationship work
Dear Cathy and Mark, My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We officially got together a few months before the pandemic. Thankfully, our love survived it. Recently, he was accepted into a graduate studies program in New York. He will be there for two years. I know we have all the tools...
Dealing with dad and ‘the long goodbye’
Dear Cathy & Mark, Our 80-year-old father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s five years ago. Around a year and a half ago, our mother died of Covid-19. At the time of her passing, our dad’s Alzheimer’s was diagnosed to be at a moderate level. It has progressed much since. There are days when he asks where...
Single parent, 52, wonders if she should date again
EDITOR’S NOTE: CoverStory is launching “Two for the Road,” an advice column on life, love, and loss. Cathy is in private practice as a grief, loss, and transitions coach. She is an author of four books, two of them on grief. Mark has been a registered nurse for 47 years and is an educator specializing...